Friendships & Polarity

Matrix 5 Excerpt 

In Matrix 5, I discuss various forms of polarity on 3rd density Earth. One expression of polarity that many don't necessarily consider is in friendships. There is the Darksider 'friendship' where one's attitude is 'what can you do for me'. This is the one way, 'me only' orientation. We either know this type or have seen it demonstrated in film or television. This is a sadistic expression. 

The opposite is found in the Lightsider friendship. This is the 'I'm here for you no matter what you say or do to me'. This is the masochistic style: Use me/abuse me...I'm here for whatever you wish. This type of 'friendship' is held up as some kind of icon of idealism. The only ones who say that have an interest in controlling others. It's also the 'misery loves company' pack. I recently heard from someone who I no longer care to associate because he expects me to play this masochistic role. He went so far as to quote David Icke, from one of his books, where David says 'everyone is to blame when there are disagreements even when someone else started it'. David believes that you ‘just being there’ is enough to qualify you to accept responsibility for someone else's experiential loop. That is NOT true and Lightsider bullshit. Anyone who thinks that line will work on me has no comprehension of Awakened Final Incarnations.

When faced with this type of person, use the Law of Allowance and permit them to dally in the garden of guilt they've sown, BUT also separate yourself from the situation unless you, too, are caught in an experiential loop. Balanced individuals do not entertain these Dark/Light situations in a Final Incarnation level. You are helping someone to deal with their experiential loop when you remove yourself from their loop. This forces them to look within, if they are Advanced enough. You are no longer there to feed their erroneous fantasy and take blame for THEIR flaws. 

Lightsiders will think that's 'horrible' to say. Lightsiders fear reality. Darksiders will grumble. They know that Dark cannot exist without Light. For each person that pulls out of the polarity game, that removes one Dark and one Light pawn. If you leaned to Light, by removing yourself from Light, balance corrects by removing one Dark. You should be able to see where this is headed by thinking over what I've just written.

This is another reason why loneliness becomes more and more common in Very Advanced stages and is at its height in the Awakened Final Incarnation. You are separating yourself more and more from situations and persons who still want to play the Game. People who are nearing the final spiral out, want to put the Game behind them. Catering to people who want you to be responsible for THEIR flaws/experiential loops will hold YOU back from your progress. This is like the bucket of crabs where, when one tries to escape, the others pull him back down to be with them.

It is very valid for you to examine people who claim to be your friends. Are they your true friends or using you to augment their experiential loops? Do they expect you to cater to them or for you to be their whipping post for their insecurities, jealousies or inner bitterness? I told the person that I referred to above that “it's not that I'm mad at you. I'm not. It's that I don't want or need this vibration in my life today.” The Rocky Road is demonstrated here. The Smooth Road is so much easier. The choice is yours.